A summer romance is a delicate situation. It’s more scolding than the tenacious sun on an early July afternoon and fizzles out faster than cooler sunsets in August.
But on the quest for summer loving, many young ladies find themselves at a loss. They encounter the popular problem that is ever-present: Whom can I date?
Falling for the bad boys, the good boys and sometimes even the gay boys is nothing new. People get so caught up in looking for “love” that they confuse what they want with what they have.
In his exceptional guide for young ladies, “Classy,” Derek Blasberg outlines how to distinguish the bad boy, the good boy and the gay boy. Once you have done so, remember these tips during your quest for and conquer of a summer fling
The Bad Boy
It’s inevitable that at some point you will fall for this specimen of male. The motorcycle, the leather jacket and the attitude are irresistible. You might even think, “Hey, maybe he could be different.” But let it stand clear that a snake is still is snake. Just like Taylor Swift didn’t change John Mayer, you will not change this guy. In the end you will not be the victim, you will be another notch on his belt.
Blasberg advises to be wary of the vices: drinking and smoking. “If he can’t get through the day without being wasted and sedated, surely he’ll have a hard time getting through a relationship,” he says. These are warning signs that he might not be the best choice. Vices only get worse as time progresses, so if you do decide to have a fling with a bad boy this summer remember that he might be toxic.
In women’s defense, the bad boy comes in all shapes and sizes, and can be difficult to distinguish. Sometimes the bad boy plays games. He’ll make you feel pretty and special, and then disappear for three weeks. What’s that about? Clearly you don’t mean that much to him, and that’s OK because you can’t mean everything to everybody. He’s a bad boy because he led you on, but you will be the smart girl by moving on and forgetting the loser
When it comes to having a fling with bad boys, don’t expect a happy ending.
The Good Boy
Ladies ask themselves all the time “Why can’t I just find a good guy?” Wake up call, they’re all around you. They’re just usually not to your liking physically, or they have the ol’ girlfriend.
If you do find the good boy this summer, go for it! Often, women sabotage potential relationships because they are afraid. They’ll try too hard or not hard enough. Blasberg says confidence is key. If he likes you, and he’s shown interest in hanging out more, seize the opportunity. Don’t be afraid to call first and to show that he indeed has a little place in your life. Do whatever you want with this boy because summer is short and the end is approaching.
Blasberg advises ladies to verbally communicate as much as possible, whether it’s on the phone or meeting in person. I say, rule out text messaging. Texts are lame. If he wants to talk to you, he can call you. If he likes you, he won’t mind meeting up. Texts are just a device guys use with girls they don’t really care about but still want to see what they can get out of them. Hopefully, not a sext from you.
The Gay Boy
Ah, homosexual men. They are usually fabulous and impeccably clean, and sometimes the smartest people you know. The boy who will go shopping with you listens to you and has great hair. The perfect boy, except he doesn’t want to date you. This summer don’t mistake a gay friend for boyfriend. He will never be into you in that sense. Use the opportunity to nurture a great friendship with a wonderful person, and don’t waste it crushing on him.
Watch out for whom you fall for this summer. Don’t rush into something that doesn’t feel right just because you’re scared that nothing better will come along. If it’s meant to be a fling, it will be obvious. Know that you are an amazing person with a lot to offer someone who actually deserves it, even if it’s just for a hot summer.
