Ah, winter break. Plenty of time to catch up with old friends, chill with the family, cozy up in front of the fireplace with hot cocoa and mess around with the new iPhone or Blackberry Storm. But while you'd think all of these things would keep you busy, your mind is still stuck on what's-her-name or 'the boy,' also known as your fall fling.
For the last couple of months, you've been texting each other every night around nine to see if there's a chance you'll both be at midtown later and readily available for some tipsy sexy time once the bars close. You're not technically dating (far from Facebook official), but neither of you are currently listed as single.
Then came exam week, and maybe you hooked up a few times to blow off study steam, but each of you then headed home on different days without even formally saying goodbye. With no classification, it's hard to decide how to handle the next few weeks of separation.
If this is your situation, then your communication over break could've gone one of two ways. Either you didn't talk to the fling at all or there were a few random texts and calls. So, the question remains: Where do we go from here? Who makes the first move? What if he isn't even interested in me anymore?
No matter how much or little you talked to your fall fling over break, one rule must be followed upon your return to Gainesville: Do not, by any means, play games. Break can be like a long weekend where you just don't talk, and things can pick up just how you left them. Or maybe you get back and realize there's no point in trying to rekindle the fallen flame.
But stick with your gut and the clichéd advice to follow your heart. If you want to call then call. If you want to text then text. But never double text because you will look like a desperate loner who didn't get kissed at midnight on New Year's Eve.
If you run into them before you actually talk, play it cool and be nice. You must remember that without having answered the infamous "What are we?" question, neither one of you were responsible for contacting the other over break, so you can't be mad if there was no connection. If you act upset or even show the slightest twinge of frustration for having not heard from them, you may be categorized as obsessive or too attached.
If things pick back up right away, congratulations. But be aware that it may not be smooth sailing. Both of you were on break, which technically means break from school but can also mean break from each other. What happened under the mistletoe stays under the mistletoe.
So, whether your fall fling has flung or has progressed into a spring fling, remember to take it easy and accept it for what it was, is or might be. Either way, you definitely got some out of it.
