It doesn't take a keen eye to realize the students around here emulate Gainesville's hot, hot heat.
There are literally thousands of brilliant, fascinating, gorgeous, arousing lovelies in this tiny town. And most of us aren't registered as "in a relationship" on Facebook.
We're kind of seeing a friend of a friend, flirting with a honey in our Tuesday class, texting uber cutie pie(s) that we randomly met last weekend in addition to Facebook-stalking our exes and the hottie at the gym. Harmless ... right?
He says...
People always say that quality is better than quantity, but is that always true?
You're young, hot and in the best shape of your life - and with that comes the stamina and drive of a stallion. There is a slew of beautiful women all around campus. Who says you have to settle with just one?
Now is the best time to discover what kind of person you want to end up with. That means meeting and dating as many people as possible, with an added bonus of a lot of sex.
I don't believe in soul mates or "the one." I think the best relationships are formed when people enjoy spending as much time together with their clothes on as they do off. I think the goal should be to spend time with as many different kinds of people as possible to figure out what you want in a partner.
No one really knows what he or she is looking for in a mate, and the best way to learn is by trying. I say go for it.
Date as many people as you can - just don't be a douche about it. Be honest and upfront with all of your partners, and don't pretend the relationship is something it's not.
Try on all different shapes, sizes and models of people. Like they always say, you don't buy a car without giving it a test drive.
She says...
Maybe. Juggling is an act that is justifiable for those who haven't yet shared a mutually starry-eyed, let's-be-monogamous moment with one who tickles their fancy. While playing the field is a veiled safeguard for vulnerable heartstrings, it is also a delicate balancing act that can turn ugly really quickly if everyone's not on the same page.
Do you want a relationship, or do you want to be unattached? If you answered the latter, are you going to be cool if you run into a lust interest out with a different suitor? Are you unaffected by an "easy" reputation? (Gainesville is S-M-A-L-L.)
Are you secure enough to look someone in the eye and tell him or her you don't want anything serious even though he or she is totally smitten? Are you confident enough to call it quits when you know you're in over your head? Are you going to be jealous and territorial when a former interest gets monogamous with someone else, even though you confirmed you didn't want a relationship?
Flip side: Let's say you do want a relationship, but you want to play the field until you meet the right person. This decision I do advocate, but understand it also has consequences. Are you willing to explain juggling to the new sweetheart if they ask? Are you willing to accept the fact that your honesty might upset them, perhaps irreversibly?
My advice to the players who are easily distracted: Take it easy, at least for the first few weeks of the semester. Juggling your coursework is stressful enough. Why flirt with emotional entropy? But if you do decide to join Team Promiscuous, do so responsibly. Be safe and honest from the get-go to lessen encounters with melodrama, but know that even candor can backfire.
