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Great sex is in danger. Thanks to the rampant availability of pornography online and the wild sexual encounters it depicts, sex is beginning to fall short of our expectations.
Don’t get me wrong; I have nothing against porn. I think that whacking the salami is healthy and in most cases, necessary to maintain one’s sanity. My problem with porn is how it can condition us — guys especially — into thinking that the situations we see on our computer screens are the norm.
As young lads, porn tricks us by offering a welcome respite from the Victoria’s Secret catalogs and blurred nipples on TV. The first time I saw people having sex on camera, my face nearly melted off like the Nazis in “Raiders of the Lost Ark.”
But apart from opening up a Pandora’s box of blow jobs and anal sex, porn can significantly harm our future sexual health.
First, your premature ejaculation problems are probably a result of your Usain Bolt-like jack sessions. When finding the material you need is as effortless as logging onto YouPorn, no real effort is needed to get your rocks off. Couple that with the fear of getting caught by parents or roommates, and you are essentially training your penis like an Olympic sprinter.
The content of today’s porn can make the actual deed, for some, seem lackluster. It’s hard to not get swept up by all the fake boobs, tattoos and piercings. The chicks are definitely a lot hotter, but they are much less real. And with all the yelling, spitting and slapping, the girls are much more animated than in the porn of the past.
Eventually the line of expectations gets blurred, and guys get swept up in this false sense of sexual reality. I hate to break it, but the pizza girl is not going to grind on you just because you whip out your Johnson instead of giving her a tip. Porn can pigeonhole guys into getting aroused by only a certain type of woman. If your thing online is busty Asian girls or red-headed amputees, you may be severely limiting yourself when you get out and try to pick up actual chicks.
Sex, like any skill, takes education and practice. Use porn as a way to raise your sexual awareness, but don’t let it become your only window into the world of sex.
