The year is 2009. We live in the age of the tri-sexual - a post-"Sex and the City," "Queer as Folk," and "The L Word" world in which people are open to a multitude of sexual experiences. For those who don't know, a tri-sexual is somebody who is willing to "try" anything at least once. Bondage, rim jobs, foursomes; everything is open to invitation and conversation. So it comes as no surprise that we would be willing to experience these sexual expressions with a member of the same sex.
Call us sinners; it won't matter. Even ABC Family's "Greek" allows two men to contemplate having sex together and, somehow, the world continues to revolve. As such, future generations are becoming more progressive and experimental toward sexuality. We establish our own identities and go home with who we want - gender is not always an issue.
Don't believe it? I know of multiple people who engage in both-sex relations. One of them, a straight man, kicks off his boxers and slips into bed with three other men to decipher his own sexuality. Another consistently uses her self-assurance to not only sleep with men, but to also break down the closets of straight women drawn to her bubbly personality and athletic swagger. As she says, "I'm not a sexual predator, I just introduce women to what they like before they know they like it."
Some, however, can't comprehend this sexual game of drop-add. They ask, are bisexuals open, confused or greedy? Is it all just a pre-party stop on the way to "gay" hour? Let's save ourselves the annoying, clichéd textbook responses to nature versus nurture, and instead consider a college environment that encourages new experiences.
With increasing acceptance, hormones and liquor happily trafficking its way into the dorms of college campuses, it's no wonder so many of our peers wake up behind closed doors to another man or woman serving them sausage or eggs. Human nature, after all, lends itself to curiosity. Why limit yourself to one gender when you can have both?
Collegiate women are considerably more prone to this concept of bisexuality than their male counterparts. Perhaps it's because women are more emotionally inclined, placing greater emphasis on personality rather than physicality. Or maybe it's because society would rather embrace the image of two women grinding on each other in a club as opposed to two men. Ever heard a male declare over radio airwaves that he kissed a boy and he liked it?
And is a simple drunken make-out between sorority sisters really indicative of bisexuality? I'd make the argument that no, that's just a good time. Bisexuality is the willingness to swap teams - not just spit - for a member of the same sex.
This being college, you've already declared a major, why rush to declare your sexuality? If you're certain that you score a 100 percent on the heterosexual exam or are just too scared straight to deviate from the norm, that's fine. But if you're uncertain, there's only one way to find out. Who knows, you might like it.
